Stay in the relationship or leave?
A structured way to decide: what matters most to you, which paths are real (staying and rebuilding, taking distance, separating), and what each would ask of you. Not a verdict on your partner. A decision you can live with.
Head and heart keep changing sides
- You feel torn between staying in the relationship and separating.
- Your head and heart point in different directions.
- Conversations loop without resolution.
- You worry about hurting others or making a decision you'll regret.
- You crave clarity but emotions keep clouding judgement.
Four stages. One decision you can explain a year from now.
The same method serious organisations use for decisions worth millions, applied to yours. Structured conversations, work between sessions on both sides, and a written result you keep.
A written Decision Dossier: your criteria and values hierarchy, a trade-off table of your options, your rationale, and a 30/60/90-day action plan.
Typically one to three 90-minute working sessions, online, plus work in between on both sides. You buy the result, not hours. A check-in within 30 days is included.
Everything stays between us. No third parties, no exceptions unless you ask or the law requires it.
The list changes every time you write it
Because it has no weights, no criteria and no honest view of the risks; it just mirrors how you feel that day. Decision analysis fixes that: explicit criteria, options compared on the same terms, uncertainty named instead of ignored. The decision stays yours. The reasoning becomes durable.
An advisor, not a coach
PhD, Global Executive MBA. I have advised organisations and leaders on high-stakes choices for over a dozen years and now bring the same methods to individuals at career and life crossroads. Structure, proven methods, and empathy. No hidden agenda, no upsell.
Questions people ask
Can we do this together, as a couple?
Yes, and for some questions it is the better setup. We agree at the start which sessions we hold together and which individually, because some thinking is easier alone. What is said in an individual session stays there. It remains decision work rather than couples counselling: we work on the choice in front of you, not on the relationship itself.
Is this coaching or therapy?
Neither. Therapy works on how you feel and where that comes from. Coaching works on habits, performance and goals. Here we work the problem itself: the facts, the options, what you value, the risks, and what each path would ask of you. The methods come from strategy, governance, risk management and decision analysis. If what you need is treatment or support with your mental health, that is another profession, and I say so.
What if a different sprint turns out to fit better?
We check your entry point at the start, and if it is the wrong one, I say so and what you have paid moves to the sprint that fits. Nothing is added to a scope without your agreement.
Can I move a session?
Yes, free of charge up to 24 hours before it starts. Later than that, the session counts as held unless a replacement date fits into the sprint without extra effort. If I have to move a session, you get a replacement date.
The terms in fullTalk it through before you decide anything
30 minutes, online. We look at your situation, I tell you honestly whether structured advisory would help, and you decide. No preparation needed.