Have a child now or later?
A structured way to decide together: what "ready" means for each of you, which timing scenarios are real, and what each asks of health, money, career and the relationship. Not pressure from outside. A shared decision you both stand behind.
You agree on the if, not on the when
- You and your partner agree on wanting children but not on when.
- You feel caught between biological timing, career plans and financial realities.
- People around you give conflicting advice, "there's never a perfect time."
- You fear regret, either waiting too long or acting too soon.
- You want to make this decision consciously, not under pressure.
Four stages. One decision you can explain a year from now.
The same method serious organisations use for decisions worth millions, applied to yours. Structured conversations, work between sessions on both sides, and a written result you keep.
A written Decision Dossier: your criteria and values hierarchy, a trade-off table of your options, your rationale, and a 30/60/90-day action plan.
Typically one to three 90-minute working sessions, online, plus work in between on both sides. You buy the result, not hours. A check-in within 30 days is included.
End a sprint at any point and pay only for what was done by then, never the full fee without the deliverable. Half the fee is invoiced on confirmation and half with the deliverable; if a sprint ends earlier, the difference is settled as a refund or as a final invoice.
Everything stays between us. No third parties, no exceptions unless you ask or the law requires it.
The list changes every time you write it
Because it has no weights, no criteria and no honest view of the risks; it just mirrors how you feel that day. Decision analysis fixes that: explicit criteria, options compared on the same terms, uncertainty named instead of ignored. The decision stays yours. The reasoning becomes durable.
An advisor, not a coach
PhD, Global Executive MBA. I have advised organisations and leaders on high-stakes choices for over a dozen years and now bring the same methods to individuals at career and life crossroads. Structure, proven methods, and empathy. No hidden agenda, no upsell.
More about meQuestions people ask
Can we do this together, as a couple?
Yes, and for some questions it is the better setup. We agree at the start which sessions we hold together and which individually, because some thinking is easier alone. What is said in an individual session stays there. It remains decision work rather than couples counselling: we work on the choice in front of you, not on the relationship itself.
What if we do not reach the same answer?
Then that is a result, and a useful one. The method makes visible where exactly you differ: in what you want, in how you weigh it, or in what you expect to happen. Most disagreements sit in one of the three, and each is worked on differently. What you take home is written down for both of you, including the point you have not settled, so the conversation can continue on facts rather than on repetition.
Is this coaching or therapy?
Neither. Therapy works on how you feel and where that comes from. Coaching works on habits, performance and goals. Here we work the problem itself: the facts, the options, what you value, the risks, and what each path would ask of you. The methods come from strategy, governance, risk management and decision analysis. If what you need is treatment or support with your mental health, that is another profession, and I say so.
What if a different sprint turns out to fit better?
We check your entry point at the start, and if it is the wrong one, I say so and what you have paid moves to the sprint that fits. Nothing is added to a scope without your agreement.
Talk it through before you decide anything
30 minutes, online. We look at your situation, I tell you honestly whether structured advisory would help, and you decide. No preparation needed.
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